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Distance

My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me because she stumbled across this Facebook post she shared on her wall. Someone had written a detailed long post about how they found the love of their life after coming from a breakup which nearly made them ‘give up on love’.

The Facebook post starts-off with the writer recalling how she broke up with her boyfriend at the time. She cites ‘distance’ as the main reason for the breakup. Basically the Facebook post is about how the breakup led to the finding of her prince charming whom she ended up having his kids and living happily ever after.

The post came to my girlfriend's attention mid-winter (It came to my attention recently), as rotten luck would have it, it was about the same time the two of us were having a bit of ‘distance’ in our relationship for the first time in 3 years for one reason or another but mainly because of financial challenges I was facing during that time. Even though I never cheated or never stopped loving her, to my lack of awareness of the situation, we gradually drifted in communication as life reared its ugly head.

I imagine as she was reading this Facebook post, in her mind it sounded closely familiar to what our relationship was going through at the time. She felt she could relate with this person’s ordeals - she felt the 'distance'.

Long story short, the Facebook post compelled her to leave me for another guy. Instead of reconciling our relationship, she choose to be persuaded by the writer’s words and throw away years of us being together. Instead of going the distance, she choose to pack up and leave. What a world.

I’ve always found writing to be therapeutic as I’m currently struggling to come to terms with the loss of a departed loved one. I also find it strange being a victim of an aberration - the guy in the story who causes the breakup which ultimately leads her to find her ’true’ love. I was simply the conduit who will be remembered as the ex who occupied 3 years of her life before she found prince charming.

My attempts to reach out and reconcile our love have fallen face-first. She no longer has ears or eyes for me. She now only sees me as a preordained obstacle that needed to be overcome on her journey of finding prince charming. I was simply a steppingstone. I’m left powerless and an overwhelming feeling of hopelessness.

Betrayal is another emotion cooking inside of me. She has walked away from a 3 year long relationship without a pause to mend the communication lines - is how I feel betrayed. Its like she was looking for an exit out, and now she found ‘one’ - she slams the door in my face without ever looking behind or saying bye.

I hope none of my readers ever get to experience the pain of losing someone they love. I will not go into it but the pain of a wounded heart is like nothing I’ve ever experienced before in my life. I truly hope she finds happiness. I will conclude this heart-sinking post with one of my favorite quote that has helped me get over such a trying phase of my life.

‘Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times if one only remembers to turn on the light.’ - Dumbledore (Harry Potter and The Prisoner Of Azkaban) :)

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